After much discomfort, stress, and lack of sleep, I’ve decided to blog about my current pregnancy.
For those just tuning on or who have been reading, but not watching the videos via YouTube, my husband and I are currently expecting a baby! This is of course, my third time, but is his FIRST, so that is very exciting for both of us.
I’m currently 6 months (26 weeks) progressed in this pregnancy and, after reading and watching videos/blogs/accounts from other pregnant women, have some things that I feel the need to share and stress…
What triggered this?
The overwhelmingly common feedback from pregnant, or previously pregnant, women that pregnancy is all “amazing, wonderful, spiritual, glamorous, blessing…etc”. And, be those things as they may be… that does not begin to cover the reality of what pregnancy really is. . . .
I’ll begin by going over some symptoms of early pregnancy that have since subsided or at least minimized by now:
This felt like dying to me. Granted, I experienced a worse version than most women (and apparently less than half of all pregnant women get morning sickness to begin with), but it was crippling and handicapped me from month 2 until month 5. At which point I was prescribed medication which I am still taking on occasion for lingering nausea and sporadic vomitimg.
This was another symptom that I cannot wholly contribute to pregnancy alone, but it was uncomfortable and often debilitating, nonetheless. Another lone symptom, but also contributed or worsened by excessive vomiting causing dehydration.
At this point I’m finally at the stronger, more energetic, healthier, more normal again stage of pregnancy (though I’m quickly nearing the end of it) and I no longer feel physically exhausted or fall asleep without warning in the middle of the day. I’m guessing excessive vomiting had some contribution to that as well though.
Something that may not ail all of you, especially first-time moms who are new to this ride and taking the changes in awe and wonder. The aversions I found far worse than cravings, obviously, as they would usually be set off by or provoke another bout of nausea and vomiting. Cravings I found fun, at first, but soon felt it became another symptom that caused me to feel out of control of my own body… as many do.
And that was just what I can recall off-hand of the first HALF of this! Now, onto the short list of “magical blessings” that I’m still dealing with:
- Extremely tender, aching, swollen nipples/breasts
Started at a size 32D and am currently up to a 38DD and growing. And the milk hasn’t even come in yet. Oh, wait til that happens!
Contributed to growing baby, stretched muscles, weakened core, suddenly heavier breasts, difficulty sleeping accommodatingly, and rapid weight gain.
At only two-thirds of the way through I’ve already gained 20lbs. 20LBS. And I’ve still another three months to go!
- Brain Fog
- Blurred Vision
- Dry skin and hair – It’s said those improve, not always true.
- Chloasma – “mask of pregnancy” type of melasma, or rosacea
- Nausea – yes, still.
- Braxton Hicks – Mild, non-labor inducing contractions (still uncomfortable)
- Difficulty Breathing – baby has moved up against my lungs
- Increased Heart rate – Body’s attempt to increase oxygen
- Emotional Instability – You can not control your emotions
- Increased Urination
- Joint Pain
- Nasal Drip
- Vaginal Discharge
– Your vagina is constantly cleaning itself in preparation for birth, there is constantly stuff flushing out of there. Some days you may even need a panty liner.
- Difficulty Sleeping
– Due to pressure, pain on hips and ribs
– Due to any and/or all of the above
Am I complaining? No.
But, maybe that’s what motivates women to focus on the “magic” and the “blessings” that pregnancy creates, fear of being seen as complaining for telling the unfiltered truth.
Well, I believe that filtering the truth, especially about pregnancy, creates an unrealistic idea of what to expect when you’re expecting, and leaves women in a panic or severe stress when they experience pregnancy like mine have been.
*I won’t even get into these hoards of teenage girls who somehow got it into their heads that they should get pregnant, because it seems so great.
My intention is not to convince everyone that every pregnancy is a horrible experience, every pregnancy and person is different.
Nor, is my intention to simply complain.
I would, however, really like to see a world where women tell the whole truth about pregnancies, not just behind closed doors (in private forums), and not just the beautiful version of the truth.
Why is the pain and suffering we endure something that should be shamed or hidden?!?
Why are we lying to eachother and creating unrealistic expectations based on the impression that we are superhuman and don’t vomit, cry, and pee.
Yes we do! It’s ugly, but it’s true.
And this, is what it takes to make a baby… in reality.
Well, this is my experience anyway.
What is yours? Honestly. . .
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